Surviving Domestic Abuse:  Why Do Women Go Back?

In light of the recent events regarding Chris Brown and Rihanna, this country has been forced to take a look at an epidemic that is growing increasingly fast.  Many times the face of the perpetrator is one that does not let on to their dark side.  As we looked at the pictures of Rihanna after the “alleged” abuse (he is innocent until proven guilty), we were certain that this relationship was over.  However to our chagrin, we are now hearing reports that the two are in Miami.  So the question we ask is “After surviving a domestic abuse incident, why do women go back?”           

Maybe the only one who knows the answer to that question, is the woman who has experienced domestic violence and returned or, even worse, stayed.  Many of the victims however don’t survive to tell their story.  There in lies the question, there is no guarantee that you will get out, so when you can, why not leave and not look back?  

We hear time and time again the staggering numbers of domestic violence statistics and yet it seems as though the reality of these statistics are not a wake up call for some.  So we will throw some more out for you now:    

·        Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women in the U.S.
·        A woman is abused every 12 seconds in the U.S.
·        Of those who abuse their partner, well over 65% also physically and/or sexually abuse the children
·        Every day 4 women die as a result of abuse
·        Every day 3 children die as a result of abuse
·        32% of female homicide victims are killed by their intimate partners

There is a misconception that domestic violence has short arms, however it reaches every race, economic and social class, belief system and education level.  The failure of the system to impose true punishment for such acts of violence against women speaks to the archaic beliefs of our judicial system.  These acts should be treated and tried as hate crimes against women.  Now, having said that, the women in these situations have to help the system out too, stop going back to these dysfunctional relationships.  

Most times abuse is an attempt to control the victim.  If you survive the first incident, make a conscience decision to get out then and PRESS CHARGES!!!! 

So the answer to our question is no matter what the reason is that women go back, it is not a good enough reason.  Women need to stop deciding to be with men at the expense of themselves.  

Finally, the thought for the week… A child’s exposure to the father abusing the mother is the strongest risk factor for transmitting violent behavior from one generation to the next. 

Recession Tuesdays

Tips Discussed On This Week's Show:

     1.  Saving money for banking services and loans

     2.  Foreclosure avoidance (buying yourself more time)

     3.  Paying less for food